Life is a beautiful thing, but the jarring reality is that there are challenging, and often ugly chapters which make up part of the journey. Life is not infinite. And so we recommend you live life to its fullest while coming to terms with its temporary nature. Just as the beginning can be complicated, coming to terms with the later stages of life can be taxing.
The most challenging part of life may be coping with its end. According to VeryWellMind, the paradox of longevity is that the longer a life we live, the fewer friends, colleagues, and family members we have to share our life with. As we mark National Grief Awareness Day on August 30th, here are 5 tips we hope will help you cope with grief as you get up there in your years.
Embrace your feelings
One of the most detrimental things you can do while experiencing loss is to deny your feelings. After all, you are human! It is not just understandable to feel sad, angry, frustrated, or hopeless after the loss of an important person. Those feelings are expected. Depriving yourself of your natural emotional response only represses those emotions. “Instead of avoiding your feelings, try embracing them for a moment” advises Andy Cruz, Vice President of Pride PHC. “It’s okay to feel sad, that’s a critical part of grieving…and growing.”
Change your Perspective
Life is all about perspective. Instead of thinking about the pain or difficulty of your present loss, switch your thinking. For an hour, try only focusing on the joy their life brought to yours. Focus on the positives. Replace your anger with gratitude. Weren’t you lucky to have them in your life?
It’s OK to ask for help
It’s essential to explore your grief, according to John Hopkins Medical. There are so many hands offering to lift you up in this very moment, you just haven’t grabbed them yet. Grief counselors and support groups can be especially beneficial during a time of loss. There are so many people who want to help, they just don’t know you yet. Introduce yourself.
Take care of yourself
Sometimes during grief, people can become so overwhelmed with emotion that they forget to take care of themselves. Maintaining a healthy diet, regular exercise, deep breathing exercises (meditation) and plenty of sleep can go a long way toward making you feel better. “Keep in mind,” said Andy, “the better you feel, the better you can cope.”
There is no shortage of margaritas and Fiesta here in San Antonio, but alcohol is a depressant. Booze and beers may only worsen your mood in the long run. So, we recommend that you avoid depressants while you are in mourning. The perceived relief of drugs or alcohol will be temporary at best.
Pride PHC is in its 20th year of providing support services for home care and private care to the elderly and homebound ,so that they can live safely and independently in the comfort of their own home. Our trained team of caregivers serves the San Antonio Metro Region including Eagle Pass, Crystal City, New Braunfels and Floresville.